Whether you want to exchange nudes or just have some phone sex before you doze off, there’s an app for you.
Bumble is female-focused, which gives it a leg up over Tinder. The site’s ethos encourages women to make the first move and fosters a sense of mutual respect.
Feeld focuses on connecting matches interested in threesomes. Its fun user interface and photo verification features ensure its users are legit.
HER
HER is one of the most popular lesbian dating apps. Its focus on community building sets it apart from other apps, which tend to gear more towards casual hookups and lead to “swipe exhaustion.” The app is free to download, and you can use it to chat, find events, and start communities. There is a paid subscription that allows you to add more details about yourself and your interests, as well as filter by sexuality.
User feedback is generally positive, with many lauding the specialized focus of the app and its effective community-building features. HER is also known to be safer than other apps, with reporting tools that help weed out bad actors. Its users are a diverse group, from all walks of life, which adds to the richness of conversations and the inclusivity of the community.
Happn
Unlike other dating apps that use swipes to match you, Happn connects you with people you have actually passed by in real life. The app uses GPS to track your location, and when another user passes by a spot you’ve been to, their profile will show up on your feed. You can like a profile to show interest, and send a “charm” to a match if you want to start a conversation.
Happn doesn’t verify profiles, but users can report suspicious accounts and block members they don’t want to talk to. The website also offers best practices for safe online dating. The site’s clean and simple interface makes it easy to navigate, and the app works well on both iOS and Android devices. You can even use the app offline.
Feeld
Feeld has been described as many things: the Tinder of threesomes, swingers, and people looking for non-monogamy; the dating app for the queer and kink community; and the place to find sexually adventurous partners. It’s no wonder the app, which was founded in 2014, has been growing rapidly.
Kirova, who is one of a handful of post-Girl Boss era queer tech CEO’s insisting on deep responsiveness to their communities, is retooling the app to reflect that. A recent rebrand included adding more options for gender and sexuality, and the ability to change those labels as often as you want.
The app also encourages you to be specific about what you’re looking for, with options to state your turn-ons, interests, and desires for texts, threesomes, foreplay, dating, watching, and friendships. Unlike most other apps, you can also make your photos private and use an incognito mode.
Pure
Unlike other hookup apps, Pure offers an ad-free experience and allows users to post photos anonymously. The app also verifies users’ identities through social media accounts and phone numbers, which helps to reduce the likelihood of scams and catfishing. The app also offers a chat feature that allows users to communicate with their matches through audio or video.
Founded around the same time as Tinder, Pure is an alternative dating platform that facilitates on-demand casual sex. The founders envision the site as an Uber for dates and encourage sexy but respectful conversations. The company’s ethos also encourages members to maintain a sense of anonymity post-interaction. Users can even choose to chat incognito and keep their phone number private. Aside from chats, the app also allows users to upload photos and videos.
OkCupid
OkCupid is a swipe-style dating app that offers free and paid features. Its premium services include unlimited messaging and more advanced search options. It also includes a mobile version that allows you to access the site on the go.
However, it does come with some drawbacks. For one, it requires you to provide your real name, which can be a big turn off for some people. Its members have also complained about dead profiles, catfishing, and being abruptly suspended.
Founded by self-described math nerds in 2004, OkCupid uses a mix of non-traditional questions and math to match you with someone who shares your values and goals. They offer a wide variety of dating options, including polygamy, and support many gender identities and orientations. Plus, they prioritize privacy by offering clear policies and convenient tools to block and report suspicious members.